Hey there! đź’Ś So, let’s talk about something that’s a little different, something you might have heard of but don’t totally understand: textationships. If you’re wondering, “What the heck is that?” or “Can it be a real thing?”, you’re not alone. A textationship is, well, exactly what it sounds like: a relationship where most (or all) of the communication happens through texts. No face-to-face hangouts, just messages flying back and forth.
Now, if you’re like me, you’re probably sitting there thinking, “Is that even a real relationship?” I get it. As someone who’s an old school lover, I value deep connections and real-life interactions. I can’t imagine being with someone unless there are real feelings and respect involved. For me, getting intimate with someone, emotionally, physically, or otherwise, requires genuine connection. So when it comes to textationships, I know it’s not something that would work for me personally. But I also get why it might be an appealing option for some. And that’s what we’re diving into today.
So What’s the Deal with Textationships?
In today’s world, texting has become a huge part of communication. It’s quick, it’s easy, and it doesn’t require the pressure of a face-to-face conversation. Some people enjoy the casual nature of a textationship, it feels safe. There’s no immediate expectation, no pressure to make anything official, and there’s the excitement of waiting for the next text.
But here’s the thing: Textationships can come in different forms. For some, they’re just a fun and light way to flirt with no strings attached. For others, it can evolve into something deeper, where the text exchanges feel almost as intimate as being with someone in person. But, and this is a big but, that kind of intimacy can often leave a lot unsaid. You can’t always get a sense of someone’s true emotions or intentions through texts alone.
Why Some People Find Textationships Appealing
Let’s be real here: Texting can feel easy. For those of us who struggle with opening up in person, texting feels like a safe space. It allows for time to think about what to say and a chance to say things we might not say in real life. And yes, it’s sometimes more convenient. No awkward silences, no worrying about what to wear for a date, and the freedom to text whenever you want.
But, and I can’t stress this enough, this is only true if both people are on the same page. If one person thinks it’s just a casual, fun thing and the other is looking for something deeper, that’s where things can get tricky. If you’re looking for genuine connection and emotional intimacy, textationship alone isn’t going to cut it.
Can Textationships Be Real Relationships?
Here’s where it gets a little complicated. For me, a relationship means respect, honesty, and true feelings. I believe that those things are built when you spend time together in person, when you look each other in the eyes, and when you have conversations that go beyond emojis and text shorthand.
But I know some people make textationships work. They communicate, share their feelings, and even bond in ways that make them feel connected. It’s about how much effort is put into understanding each other, even if it’s just through texts. Still, there’s a part of me that wonders if that deep emotional connection is the same when it’s only digital. I think it’s important to ask: Can we really know someone without seeing their body language, their energy, or the way they show up in person?
The Pitfalls: When It’s Not Enough
One of the big challenges with textationships is the risk of miscommunication. When all you have are texts, it’s easy to misread things. A simple “Hey, how’s it going?” could be interpreted in so many ways. Plus, you don’t get the tone or the non-verbal cues that help clarify someone’s feelings.
And, let’s be honest, texting can sometimes create an illusion of intimacy. You might share all kinds of personal stuff over messages, but it’s not the same as being there with someone physically. Sometimes, this kind of connection can feel great at first but leave you feeling empty in the long run. You start to crave something deeper, something more real.
Is It Healthy?
If you’re in a textationship and you’re wondering if it’s healthy or not, here’s a tip: It’s all about balance. If it makes you feel happy, supported, and emotionally connected, then that’s a good thing. But if it’s making you anxious, confused, or isolated, it might be time to reassess.
And for anyone looking to take their textationship into something more meaningful, the next step is simple: Take things offline. Spend time together in person. See how you feel when you’re physically with someone. Can you still feel that spark? Are you able to share real-time moments? That’s where you’ll find out if there’s a true connection that can turn into something lasting.
My Thoughts on the Whole Thing
As I mentioned earlier, I’m old school when it comes to relationships. I can’t imagine being with someone without real feelings involved. The idea of being intimate or emotionally vulnerable with someone I don’t have a genuine connection with is just not me. That said, I do understand that texting can be part of the process of getting to know someone, but I believe in the value of building something real through face-to-face time.
If you’re someone who enjoys texting and finds it fulfilling, that’s okay. But remember, relationships are about more than just words on a screen. They’re about feeling heard, valued, and seen, something that’s hard to fully achieve through texts alone.
Conclusion: Know What You Want
In the end, textationships are a personal choice. Some people find them fun, exciting, and even meaningful. Others, like me, find they can’t truly connect without being with someone in person. Whatever it is that works for you, just be sure to stay true to yourself. Know your boundaries, understand your desires, and be open to what feels right for you.
At the end of the day, relationships, whether they’re digital or in person, are about respect, connection, and understanding. Whether you’re texting or dating face-to-face, it’s all about finding what makes you feel supported and loved.
So, how about you? Have you ever been in a textationship? How did it make you feel? Let me know in the comments below! And as always, take care of yourself and be kind to your heart. đź’–