Hey there, friend. 🌸 Closure. It’s a word that we often hear but don’t always fully understand. It’s one of those things that can feel like an elusive concept, especially when we’re in the middle of something that’s hard to let go of. Whether it’s the end of a relationship, a friendship, or even a chapter in our own lives, finding closure is something we all need to experience to move forward.
I know this topic is deeply personal, and I just want to say right off the bat that if you’re reading this because you’re dealing with some kind of ending, I see you. I feel you. And I’m here to walk with you through this. No judgments, no rush, just an honest, open conversation about what closure can look like, and how it can heal our hearts.
What is Closure, Anyway?
Closure, in its simplest form, is the sense of peace we get when something is officially over. It’s about tying up the loose ends in our minds and hearts, so we can finally breathe easy and move on. But closure isn’t always about getting answers from someone else. Sometimes, it’s about giving ourselves permission to heal, to let go, and to acknowledge that the past no longer holds the same weight it once did.
It might be an apology you never received, a conversation you wish you could have had, or just a feeling of uncertainty that’s been lingering. Closure doesn’t always come with a neat bow, it’s messy, it’s emotional, and sometimes, it’s something we need to give to ourselves, whether or not we ever get it from someone else.
Why Closure Matters
In a world where everything moves so fast, closure becomes our anchor. Without it, we can find ourselves stuck in the past, replaying old conversations or wondering “what if.” We might keep looking for something that isn’t there, hoping to find a reason or an explanation that’ll make it all make sense. But true closure comes when we accept the reality of the situation and allow ourselves to feel everything, without holding onto it.
Closure helps us reclaim our peace. It’s not about forgetting or erasing the memories, but about accepting that things have ended, and we are worthy of moving forward with hope and grace.
My Own Journey with Closure
Here’s something personal I want to share with you, closure isn’t just about relationships for me. As someone who values real connection and respect, I can’t do this modern dating thing where everything feels rushed, surface-level, or, worse, disconnected. It’s not my vibe. I believe that to be in a meaningful relationship, we need to have genuine feelings, mutual respect, and an understanding that intimacy is something that can’t just be “forced” or expected. It’s built on trust, emotion, and time.
For me, closure isn’t just about a relationship coming to an end, it’s also about knowing I gave it my best, that I stayed true to myself, and that I didn’t settle for anything that didn’t align with my heart. I won’t get intimate with someone who doesn’t have my full emotional presence. That’s just not who I am. I’ve learned that it’s okay to let go of things that no longer serve us, whether it’s a person or a situation, because we deserve something real.
The Healing Process: Taking the Time You Need
Healing after a loss, whether it’s a relationship or an opportunity, takes time. And here’s something important to remember: there’s no “right” amount of time. Some people might find closure quickly, while others may need more time, and that’s okay. It’s not a race, it’s a journey, and you are allowed to take it at your own pace.
You don’t have to force yourself to “move on” or pretend that everything is fine before you’re truly ready. Closure is not a quick fix, but rather a process of accepting, releasing, and creating space for new things to enter your life, without carrying the weight of the past with you.
What Does Closure Look Like?
Closure can look different for everyone. For some, it may come in the form of a final conversation. For others, it might mean writing a letter to someone (that they may never read) to express all the things left unsaid. It might be as simple as finding peace within yourself, knowing that you’ve learned something from the experience.
Whatever it looks like for you, remember that it’s personal, and it’s YOURS. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s idea of closure. You get to choose what feels right for you.
A Little Humor for the Journey
Look, I get it. Closure can be tough, and sometimes we try to avoid it by filling our lives with distractions. But here’s the thing: it’s okay to laugh at the weird, awkward moments. I mean, if you’ve ever been on the “closure” rollercoaster, you probably know that it can get weirdly funny at times. Maybe you bump into your ex at a coffee shop and both awkwardly pretend to not know what to say? (Oh, the charm of life, right?)
But hey, sometimes a good laugh is the best way to release the tension and remind yourself that you’re going to be okay. You got this, and one day, this moment will be just another chapter in your story.
Moving Forward with an Open Heart
At the end of the day, closure isn’t just about ending something, it’s about opening yourself up to the next chapter. It’s about looking forward to the person you’re becoming, the experiences you’ll have, and the people you’ll meet. No matter how hard it is now, the future is full of possibility.
So, take a deep breath, give yourself the grace to heal, and don’t be afraid to move on when you’re ready. You’re worthy of all the love, respect, and peace you desire, and I believe in your ability to find that.
Thank you for sharing this moment with me. 💖 Let’s keep supporting each other on this journey.
Much love, Prakul ✨